So you want to learn if you could be getting back with your ex? Breakups can happen to the best of us, but we can still have hope that things will turn around for us anyway. If you want to give it a try, there are certain things that could let you succeed. See if the following is for you.
Have certain problems that have plagued the past been taken care of? After all, the breakup did happen for some reason. If it's possible to undo the damage, whatever it may have been, then certain things that have not been resolved in the past could be still resolved now. What was the problem? Was it jealousy? Commitment issues? Just what was the problem?
And trying to repair the things that went wrong can lead you to learn some valuable lessons as well. If you are not able to learn from past mistakes, what future could there be for you? You have to show your ex that you have learned a thing or two and are ready to make amends.
One thing you should have learned to be able to get back with your ex is the art of compromise. Every bond is successful if there is a good balance between give and take. Getting back with your ex may well be expecting this. Realize that you can't always simply have things your way, that your readiness to compromise is a sign of a change that's been needed all along.
Another essential issue to get right is the fact that your ex is what your ex is. In other words, trying to transform someone is a useless enterprise. If you can accept the other person for who and what they are, you are on the road to success. It's how they treat you that count; and whether they treat you well.
In the meantime, if you feel that your ex has real feelings for you, you should keep in touch with them. But don't think that to get your ex back you yourself have to change who you actually are. There is, of course, nothing wrong with becoming more attentive and courteous. But if your ex demands a completely new you, run in the opposite direction as fast as you can.
There is one more imperative item on this list: the idea that you two have a future. But don't be one of those who just try to replicate the past. If your future is to have promise, make sure you do the things that will let you get back with your ex on new terms. If these new terms are agreeable to both of you, you are very likely to make a real go of it.
Have certain problems that have plagued the past been taken care of? After all, the breakup did happen for some reason. If it's possible to undo the damage, whatever it may have been, then certain things that have not been resolved in the past could be still resolved now. What was the problem? Was it jealousy? Commitment issues? Just what was the problem?
And trying to repair the things that went wrong can lead you to learn some valuable lessons as well. If you are not able to learn from past mistakes, what future could there be for you? You have to show your ex that you have learned a thing or two and are ready to make amends.
One thing you should have learned to be able to get back with your ex is the art of compromise. Every bond is successful if there is a good balance between give and take. Getting back with your ex may well be expecting this. Realize that you can't always simply have things your way, that your readiness to compromise is a sign of a change that's been needed all along.
Another essential issue to get right is the fact that your ex is what your ex is. In other words, trying to transform someone is a useless enterprise. If you can accept the other person for who and what they are, you are on the road to success. It's how they treat you that count; and whether they treat you well.
In the meantime, if you feel that your ex has real feelings for you, you should keep in touch with them. But don't think that to get your ex back you yourself have to change who you actually are. There is, of course, nothing wrong with becoming more attentive and courteous. But if your ex demands a completely new you, run in the opposite direction as fast as you can.
There is one more imperative item on this list: the idea that you two have a future. But don't be one of those who just try to replicate the past. If your future is to have promise, make sure you do the things that will let you get back with your ex on new terms. If these new terms are agreeable to both of you, you are very likely to make a real go of it.
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